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How often have you said to someone, "Don’t lie to me," and then stopped talking to them? How many times have we broken up with a boyfriend, girlfriend, or even ended a marriage because of a lie or mistruth? We put our children on punishment or time out when they lie, but when it comes to ourselves? We often don’t hold ourselves to the same standard.
Why is that?
Why do we—I’ll speak for myself here—why do I feel so comfortable saying I'm going to do something for me and then not sticking to it? Why do I tell myself, I'm going to write the book, start the business, go back to school, or even take myself on a date and then don't do it? Why have I grown so accustomed to letting myself down? Why am I okay with the lies I tell myself, the justifications, and the excuses? It’s a tough question to ask, but an important one. Why am I okay with telling myself those little lies, brushing them off like they don’t matter? I know I'm not alone in this.
The dangers of self-deception are so real. We’re quick to hold others’ feet to the fire, but when it comes to our own lives, we let things slide. We allow the little lies to pile up until we don’t even believe our own words anymore. That’s a dangerous place to be. So how do we change that? How do we start holding ourselves accountable and get back to a place of truth?
Let’s usher ourselves back into our own good graces.
Here’s how:
Acknowledge the Lies: The first step is recognizing the lies we tell ourselves. It’s uncomfortable, but being honest with ourselves is the only way to start the healing process.
Forgive Yourself: Once you’ve acknowledged the lies, it’s important to forgive yourself. We’re all human, and we all make mistakes. Give yourself grace, but don’t let yourself off the hook.
Speak Truth Over Your Life: Start speaking truth into your life. Replace the lies with affirmations that align with who you truly are and who you want to become. The more you speak truth, the more you’ll start to believe it.
Hold Yourself Accountable: Just like you would with a friend or partner, hold yourself accountable. Set boundaries, create goals, and stick to them. Be your own advocate for truth.
Lean on Scripture: Find comfort and guidance in scripture. It’s a powerful tool to help you stay grounded in truth and aligned with your purpose.
We have to do better at holding ourselves accountable to the promises we make to ourselves. We have to understand the importance of being true to us. Because in the words of Nino Brown from New Jack City, "We all we got." LOL!
Let’s stop being comfortable with our own lies and start believing in the words we speak. Your growth, your truth, and your purpose are worth it.
Scripture for Reflection:
John 8:32 - "Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
Proverbs 12:22 - "The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy."
Psalm 51:6 - "Surely you desire truth in the inner parts; you teach me wisdom in the inmost place."
Let’s walk in truth together. Let’s be honest with ourselves, hold ourselves accountable, and live the lives we’re truly called to live.
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